Not feeling happy with how you look and feel after having kids?
Well, let me introduce you to Kylee, who felt the same way countless other moms have felt! She is a mom of three kids ages 3 and under and is currently a stay-at-home mom. Kylee was finding it hard to feel confident after the bodily changes she experienced after having kids. She joined in on my 4 Week Shed & Shred challenge and experienced amazing results. Here’s Kylee’s story, which I hope will inspire other moms to know there is hope, you just gotta reach for it!
Like I’ve heard from many new moms, Kylee states that her confidence level was “nonexistent” before the challenge. She’d get up in the morning, put on a pair of pants, and see her belly hanging over the top. Instant confidence-killer and Kylee says that would throw off her whole day. See, our bodies go through so many changes after birth, and although I encourage all moms to love their bodies for the amazing miracles they’ve given us, it is important to acknowledge that these changes can have a negative impact in our lives. I’ve talked about these through my Instagram page and blogs before, but we go through weight changes, redistributed fat across our bodies, loose belly skin, the “mommy pooch”, c-section scar or episiotomy scar, stretch marks, pelvic floor issues, diastasis recti which can make your belly area appear larger than it should, etc, etc, etc. All these added together, and heaped on us all at once, are enough to take a big hit on our self-esteem. I get it. But let’s explore that further.
Like many moms, Kylee stated that she is all for body positivity and embraced her post-baby body, but was still lacking in the self-confidence department and knew she wanted a change. So here’s the deal. I’m in support of the body positivity movement in general. But sometimes it plays with the emotions of people who DO want to change. They start wondering why they can’t just be resigned to how they look or why they can’t just be happy with their new look. I mean, I’m as tired as the next person of unrealistic body expectations after birth. NO, you will not come out of the hospital immediately rocking the six-pack you had before getting pregnant. NO, you will not likely lose all the pregnancy weight within a month or two or even five. BUT, it goes both ways. As much as we shouldn’t expect women to immediately be fit, we also shouldn’t go the opposite extreme and expect them to be ok with a body they don’t feel comfortable in and a body that contributes to self-esteem issues and even lowered energy levels and lowered levels of health.
There are two sides to this. On the one hand, I want every mom to feel good about herself and what her body has gone through to birth a baby. That in and of itself is monumental! But there is absolutely nothing wrong and everything right with wanting to look and feel your best. We accept the things we can’t change and work on the things we can! For example, I’ve always been very open about my belly skin being looser after having my two kids by c-section. It is what it is, and I’m ok with that(And, the moment I am no longer ok with it, I will definitely look for a more permanent solution to it)! I continue to work out often and follow my eating plan, and so long as I’ve done what’s in my hands, I can feel fine about those changes that are not something I can personally have an effect on (short of a surgical procedure in the case of loose belly skin)!
In fact, when Kylee went looking for an accountability partner, people were telling her she needed to be ok with where she was at! That’s taking it too far. It’s one thing to tell a mama she looks amazing after birth (and YES that’s the only acceptable comment on her body!) But, if a mom is asking for help and expressing the desire to lose the baby weight or get fit, be that support she needs!
Kylee said something that gets to the root of the issue. “I’m happier when I’m fit.” Simple as that. And it’s not just in Kylee’s head. Not only does being fit carry with it confidence-boosting benefits (so psychological benefits), but it also has real, scientifically-proven reasons why you feel better when fit. Making better food choices makes your body feel better overall (less digestive issues, etc.) and working out has real mood-boosting powers! Not to mention both eating well and exercising give you increased energy levels at a time when you need it most (3 a.m. wake-up times, anyone??)
We all know it’s not always easy to find the support you need, the ideal workout and diet plans that will fit within your busy schedule, etc., and that’s where my programs come in. So, Kylee joined in on one of my challenges. Included within it were meal plans, exercise plans, nutritional guidance, 24/7 coaching support, an accountability group…. So here’s a breakdown of each aspect of my programs and how they helped in Kylee’s case.
Diet: I sometimes hate using this word because of all the negative connotations behind it. But at its roots, diet basically means the way you eat. You could be eating only cake and potato chips and fried foods all day and that is considered your diet, or, your diet could consist of only juiced vegetables, or anywhere in between. Of course, it’s that in-between area that many people struggle with. As with so much in life, the ideal is somewhere in between. I’m a big proponent of not cutting out any food groups. Nothing is 100% off-limits here. The key is to allow yourself treats in a controlled manner so that you can not only reach your goals but also maintain what you have accomplished. (these are all taught in the program).
Kylee loved the fact that she could eat whatever she wanted as long as it fits within her macros (Something we make SUPER simple inside the program, so don’t panic if this overwhelms you!). Eating well doesn’t mean that you have to give up all the delicious things in life.
Exercise: The other major component of my programs is exercise. As a mom myself, I make sure to include realistic workouts that take into account a mom’s busy lifestyle as well as the fact that not every mom has time for the gym (not to mention that, as of the publishing time of this blog, in some areas gyms are still closed or very limited capacity due to the pandemic).
In addition to the more obvious benefits, Kylee praised one other aspect of the program. She loved the fact that it gave her something to do for herself. We talk a lot as a society about self-care. But that’s not always a simple bubble bath or reading a good book. While those are good forms of self-care, the best kind of self-care, I believe, is to do something that has lasting benefits. Kylee appreciated the fact that she was taking this time for herself to give her body the care and attention it deserves. Because again, our bodies nourished and grew actual human being(s)! So shouldn’t we give back to them by helping them feel great?
Kylee mentions that she appreciated the fact that the workouts were the ideal length. They weren’t so long that she was struggling to fit them in her day or to finish the whole workout once she got started, yet, they weren’t so short that she was left feeling like she hadn’t done much.
Ok let’s get to the good stuff! I’m sure those of you reading this want to know: what results did Kylee get from this life changing fitness challenge?
AMAZING RESULTS, as you can see below!
What’s more, Kylee says she gained a lot of knowledge she can carry over into her daily life. The challenge was just the beginning of her amazing journey, and she has been able to maintain her accomplishments, even months after finishing it. You learn things you can use every single day!
I challenge YOU to be my next participant in my upcoming challenge. I’m excited to announce my 5 Week Super Shred challenge. I challenge YOU to see the AMAZING results you too can get by choosing change!
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