The Truth About Why Women Judge Other Women’s Bodies

The Truth About Why Women Judge Other Women's Bodies

INTRODUCTION

Nathalia opens this Unfiltered and Unscripted episode by introducing a conversation that comes up constantly with members. Women are not just struggling with consistency. They are dealing with comments, judgment, and passive aggressive remarks from people around them when they start taking care of themselves. What starts as a fitness journey quickly becomes something deeper - about identity, confidence, and how other people respond when you begin to change.

THE COMMENTS EVERY WOMAN HAS HEARD

The conversation begins with real examples pulled directly from members: "What are you taking." "It must be nice to have time for the gym." "You are getting too skinny." "Why are you working out on vacation." Nathalia highlights that these comments are not rare - they are happening more and more, even from close friends and family. What sounds like curiosity on the surface often carries a very different undertone.

PROJECTION AND SOCIAL COMPARISON

Jen breaks down what is actually happening behind these comments. Instead of seeing someone's progress and asking what they can learn, many women default to comparison. They assume there must be something extra involved - more time, better genetics, something unrealistic. This behavior is rooted in projection. When someone feels like they are not doing what they know they could be doing, it is easier to question someone else's results than to confront their own choices.

WHY WOMEN TEAR OTHER WOMEN DOWN

Jen explains that research shows women are more likely to use indirect forms of aggression - criticism, gossip, and subtle comments rather than direct confrontation. These behaviors act as a coping mechanism. Instead of rising to meet the standard, they attempt to bring the standard down. It becomes a way to regulate their own discomfort without having to change.

COGNITIVE DISSONANCE IN FITNESS

Nathalia introduces cognitive dissonance and Jen simplifies it. At its core, it is the conflict between belief and reality. A woman may believe she is doing everything she can - but when she sees someone in a similar situation getting results, that belief is challenged. Instead of adjusting the belief, she adjusts the narrative. She labels the other person as obsessive or extreme. This allows her to stay where she is without having to change.

VICTIM MINDSET VERSUS GROWTH MINDSET

Nathalia draws a clear line between two types of thinking. One group looks at someone succeeding and thinks: if she can do it, so can I. The other defaults to: she has it easier. This difference determines everything. Nathalia makes it clear that staying in a victim mindset is often the real barrier - not lack of time, not lack of knowledge, but the refusal to take ownership.

OVERCOMPLICATING THE FIRST STEP

Jen highlights another pattern: women tend to overcomplicate fitness. Instead of starting simple, they jump to extreme routines that do not fit their current life. When they cannot sustain it, it reinforces the belief that they are the problem. In reality, the problem is starting with something unrealistic instead of something simple and repeatable.

BOUNDARIES, CONFIDENCE, AND IDENTITY

Nathalia explains that confidence is not about appearance - it is about trust in your own process. When you follow through on what you say you are going to do, you build that trust. Without it, people overcommit, seek validation from others, and slowly lose themselves. Taking care of your body often forces you to set boundaries - saying no to late nights, saying no to things that do not align, and choosing what actually supports your goals.

THE ROLE OF ENVIRONMENT AND COMMUNITY

Both Nathalia and Jen emphasize that environment plays a massive role. If you are surrounded by people who normalize unhealthy habits, taking care of yourself will feel extreme. If you are surrounded by people who prioritize their health, those same habits feel normal. Your environment either reinforces your goals or pulls you away from them.

THE LONG TERM COST OF AVOIDANCE

Many women avoid making changes because everything feels fine right now. But health does not decline overnight - it is the result of repeated choices over time. Jen shares a personal example of how long term habits eventually catch up, reinforcing that the choices made today directly impact future health, mobility, and quality of life.

HOW TO RESPOND TO JUDGMENT

Jen emphasizes pausing instead of reacting. Rather than getting defensive, she suggests asking a simple question in return - something like asking why they are curious. This shifts the dynamic and often exposes whether the comment is coming from curiosity or insecurity. Nathalia shares her own approach: keep it simple and do not over explain. You do not need to justify your results or convince anyone of your choices.

REWRITING THE NARRATIVE

Instead of asking why someone else can do it, the better question is what can I learn from this. Instead of labeling yourself as lazy or undisciplined, look at the evidence in your life that proves otherwise. You are not fixed in one identity. You can change, grow, and choose differently at any point.

CLOSING REFLECTIONS

Nathalia wraps the episode by reinforcing a simple truth. Taking care of yourself is not selfish - it is necessary. The judgment that comes with it is not a sign to stop. It is a reflection of what other people are not willing to face. The goal is not to shrink yourself to fit in. The goal is to stay consistent, build confidence through action, and surround yourself with people who support the version of you that you are becoming.