He’s “just tired.” Or “too busy.” Or “not feeling it lately.”
But what if it’s more than that?
In this episode of the Unfiltered Fit Life podcast, I’m joined by Ali Gilbert—aka the Boner Queen, aka the Queen of Men’s Health—and we’re digging into everything from declining testosterone to muscle-building myths and what every woman needs to know about the men in their lives.
Whether your partner’s been “off” lately or you’re just curious why men avoid the doctor like it’s lava, this one’s for you.
Ali's helped thousands of men optimize their health, hormones, and performance—and she’s not holding anything back. From hilarious analogies (think "dick-skin lean") to real talk about andropause, this is the convo every couple needs to hear.
Here’s what we cover:
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What andropause is (yes, it’s real—and it hits earlier than you think)
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Why more men in their 20s are dealing with low T than ever before
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The surprising link between stress, body fat, and hormonal crashes
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How women can spot the signs—and talk about them without a fight
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What labs men over 40 should be running regularly
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The difference between TRT and anabolic steroids (nope, not the same)
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How Ali built a men’s health brand that’s hot pink and 100% badass
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Why men struggle with the same body image issues women do
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The truth about muscle growth, social media expectations, and why “bulking” often backfires
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What sperm count, motivation, and bedroom performance all have in common
Let’s be real: men are struggling with their health, too. They just don’t always talk about it.
Having higher body fat levels does increase the enzyme that converts testosterone to estrogen because estrogen is actually a very protective hormone both in men and women. - Ali Gilbert
So if you’re the health decision-maker in your home (hi, most women are), this episode will give you insight, clarity, and plenty of talking points for the next dinner conversation.
Hit play, share it with your partner, and DM us—what did you learn about low T that blew your mind?
Meet Ali Gilbert
Ali Gilbert is a fitness expert and leading advocate for men’s health. Known as the "Queen of Men’s Health," she combines her exercise science and coaching background with deep hormone optimization expertise. Ali has helped thousands of men achieve better health, performance, and confidence by addressing the root causes of hormonal imbalances with an evidence-based, no-nonsense approach.
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Nathalia:
Welcome back to the Unfiltered Fit Life podcast!
Today I’m joined by Ali Gilbert—aka the Queen of Men’s Health, aka the Boner Queen (yes, she put that in her booking link 😂).
We’re diving into men’s hormones, low testosterone, and how women can actually help the men in their lives without it turning into World War III.
Testosterone Talk: What Women Need to Know
Ali:
Low testosterone doesn’t just mean low sex drive.
It’s brain fog, lack of motivation, poor sleep, and feeling “off” in ways most men don’t know how to describe.
Nathalia:
And it can show up way earlier than you think—even in men in their 20s.
Ali:
Exactly. And if you’re the health decision-maker in the house (which most women are), this info is gold.
How to Spot Low T
Ali:
Here’s what to look for:
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He’s more tired than usual
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He avoids the gym or fun family stuff
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His sex drive disappears
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He’s not himself—and he knows it, but can’t explain it
Why Men Avoid Help
Ali:
Men aren’t wired to talk about this stuff.
They don’t know the words. And honestly? They feel shame.
But judgment shuts them down—what works better is saying, “I know you’re better than this.”
TRT vs Steroids: What’s the Difference?
Ali:
TRT is therapeutic—it helps men get to normal hormone levels.
Steroids are used in much higher doses for muscle gain. Not the same thing.
The Social Media Problem
Nathalia:
Just like women, men fall into the comparison trap too.
They see shredded influencers and expect the same results in 30 days.
Ali:
It’s delusional. Building muscle takes time. So does rebuilding your health. If your man isn’t feeling like himself—there’s a reason. Stress, sleep, excess body fat, and age all play a role. And it can get better with the right support.
Nathalia:
This conversation was eye-opening. Share it with someone you love—and if you’re the one booking the appointments? Bookmark this episode. You’ll need it.
